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Should i stay a house wife or should i go back to work?
I have 2 kids who are both in preschool now, even though they are only in school a few days out of a week, but i seem to get really bored. I am debating if i should go back to work. I was a software engineer, and it’s not possible to find a part time job in that field. So a full time position is the only option.
Pros: i get to work, meet new people, be in an adult environment where professionals can communicate in non-googoo-gaagaa languages. I will bring home some money, even though with increased tax, i might end up be working for free for the government. But it will help me to get retirement benefit from the government when i get older. (if such system still exist then)
Cons: i have to get up early, get the kids up early. not able to spend as much quality time with my children and my hubby. I might have to get a nanny to help out the daily chores and possibly picking up my kids for me. So might not be the most worthy thing to do for the little return.
what would you do if YOU were me?
Go back to work. Even if you DON’T need the money. They have done studies on ‘mother’s staying home vs. working mother’s…and the children whose mother’s decided to go back to work are no worse off in any category. I guarantee you the day will come when you will be so happy you decided to return to work. The family will have more money, you will have something that belongs to YOU and makes you proud. Remember, just because you had 2 children, and I assume you would do anything in the world for them…..it doesn’t mean a part of you died. Go online and do some investigating…you will find I am right. Be the best mother you can be, cultivate yourself, nurture yourself too.. and your children will have the role model they deserve.
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August 1st, 2009 at 8:57 pmReferences :
Maybe until they are in full time school you should try taking classes at the gym or something like that. Then you’re out of the house and you won’t be bored and its pretty flexible.
August 1st, 2009 at 9:14 pmReferences :
I would get something part time so it’s not so over bearing. You don’t sound like you need the money. But enjoy your kids you only get this experience once.
August 1st, 2009 at 10:03 pmReferences :
honestly hun i would stay home with the kids.
August 1st, 2009 at 10:22 pmthat seems like the best way to handle it.
if you get bored try joing a book club or working out, yoga is also great.
tons of other women are in the same postion. your kids are in one of the best times in their lives. so be there while you can.
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I would start working again, however if I am not working I don’t feel like I am benefiting anyone around me. Everyone is different you should do what is best for your children.
August 1st, 2009 at 10:55 pmReferences :
my personal opinion is that i would stay home but only because that is my dream.
anyway it really depends on what will make you the happiest. you love your job and your kids so see if you can’t have both. try job interviewing and see how flexible you can make your employer be with schedules. if you can’t seem to find the right fit for what you need i’d hold off.
your babies should be no. 1 right now they’re in a very developmental stage and need lots of mental stimulation from you and your husband so you need to make sure you have lots of time for them. try for a job but make sure this job will work with you.
August 1st, 2009 at 11:29 pmReferences :
Personally i would not start a full time job! i never wanted to be one of those parents who worked all the time! So untill the kids are older and going to school daily and doing things with there friends alot etc… I think you should think about getting out of the house when they’re gone, go take some classes, or join some sort of club, or even just call some friends and meet up and talk about old times. Anything like that!
Hope you come up with something!
Good luck!
August 2nd, 2009 at 12:14 amReferences :
hmm i think it’s good you did your pros and cons… maybe you should get part-time work in some other field? what about a part time job in a children’s clothing boutique or something, that’s just during the day when the kids are at school… or something different… idk i’m reaching here…
it sounds like you enjoy being home with the hub and the kids and it’s important to you… as it should be…
if you don’t need the extra income, i’d look for part-time work!
good luck!
August 2nd, 2009 at 12:41 amReferences :
Go back to work. Even if you DON’T need the money. They have done studies on ‘mother’s staying home vs. working mother’s…and the children whose mother’s decided to go back to work are no worse off in any category. I guarantee you the day will come when you will be so happy you decided to return to work. The family will have more money, you will have something that belongs to YOU and makes you proud. Remember, just because you had 2 children, and I assume you would do anything in the world for them…..it doesn’t mean a part of you died. Go online and do some investigating…you will find I am right. Be the best mother you can be, cultivate yourself, nurture yourself too.. and your children will have the role model they deserve.
August 2nd, 2009 at 1:07 amReferences :